5 Sex tips to enjoy intimacy when you're not ready for sex

Sexual intimacy isn’t just about intercourse. It’s about feeling close, safe, and connected. Whether you're not ready for sex emotionally, physically, or just taking your time, there are plenty of ways to experience deep intimacy without going “all the way.” see our tips below. 

1. Focus on Sensual Touch with Your Partner

Explore each other’s bodies without pressure:

• Try massages, gentle caresses, or the classic spooning

• Run your fingers through hair or along arms and back, nice and gently

• Use scented oils or warm lotion which can ease into a very sensual massage, you could also go a step further with edible massage oil for that closer touch 

This kind of closeness builds trust and physical connection without requiring sex.

2. Make Out Like You Mean It

Remember those long, slow make-out sessions that felt electric? Revisit them. Kissing, deep eye contact, and playful teasing can be incredibly intimate and arousing without needing to go further. cleanliness is key, make sure your breath smells fresh.

3. Explore Emotional Intimacy

Talk openly. Share fantasies, fears, or even silly stories. Emotional vulnerability is one of the most powerful forms of connection and can deepen your bond far beyond the physical.

4. Try “Outer-Course”

Outer-course includes:

• Touching, cuddling, or mutual masturbation

• Sensual or erotic play without penetration

5. Use Mindfulness and Presence with Your Partner

Be fully in the moment and enjoy each others company. Whether you're cuddling, kissing, or just lying together quietly, give your partner your full attention. Intimacy deepens when both people feel seen and safe, ensuring the connection and bond is strong between both of you.